Friday, April 20, 2007

Memorials and Moments of Silence

Once again we in this country find ourselves mourning the senseless killing of our citizens by others who are warped, deranged, ideologically skewed, or whatever other psychological affliction they suffer from or reason they choose to claim. Columbine eight years ago, the Amish school children last year, VA Tech a few days ago – makes you wonder about our society that these things continue to occur despite the passage of time, the analysis, the post mortem of who, what, where, when, and of course the how. The horror of it brought home – makes it easier to imagine how the people of Iraq feel 24/7!

This week we lost 33 students at a university nestled in the shadow of the Blue Ridge Mountains, a beautiful setting and one would hope a peaceful setting. This week the world lost over 200 people, killed in Iraq, in the desert or nestled between the Tigris and Euphrates Rivers. The totals for April so far are 69+ American dead, 10+ British and 1038 Iraqi Security Forces and Civilian Deaths. These are unofficial numbers but if anything they are underestimates.

Death is always sad and most times tragic; violent death is ALWAYS tragic. I do not mean to belittle the 33 who died in Virginia this week, but I want to know why we do not honor those who die and are wounded day after day serving our country in a senseless war of choice in Iraq, in the war we needed to fight in Afghanistan, and other places throughout the world. Is it only because these were innocent kids who were struck down because (we think) of a mentally unstable man who bought guns, practiced, and showed up on campus ready to make them pay for his perceived hurts? Are those who are struck down by IEDs, gunfire (friendly and enemy), etc. any less important because they volunteered to serve our country?

The real difference between them perhaps is that while the students in Virginia were victims of a horrible circumstance, those who die in Iraq are victims of a Bush league administration’s choice – a circumstance dictated, orchestrated, encouraged, and perpetrated by a group of political idealists, power-hungry, arrogant fools. In some ways I don’t see them as any less disturbed than the perpetrator of Monday’s massacre, and in many ways I think they are more disturbed. Sadly they functioned well enough to achieve positions of true power so their mental challenges adversely affect large populations, not only at home but abroad.

Today at noon I heard the tolling of bells ticking off the moment of silence declared for the dead at Virginia Tech. Shouldn’t we have a publicized daily or weekly moment of silence to commemorate the deaths of our troops, honoring them, keeping them in our hearts and minds, until those still alive return home?

Monday, April 9, 2007

Perspective

Sometimes I find myself rising to the defense at least partially of something with which I basically disagree. Today is one of those times. I am referring to the furor over a remark made by Don Imus last week when referring to the Rutgers women’s basketball team. I won’t repeat his comment here, but it had racist overtones albeit said in a typical Imus way.

For those who have watched or listened to Imus over the years he in many ways is a shock jock but not with the foul language of others but more with sarcasm and offensive (usually political) remarks. A lot of the nastier remarks are directed toward him by other cast members and guests. In short, he is not and never has been politically correct. It is part of his trademark and truthfully he is an equal opportunity offender – I don’t think there is one group he has not gone after in some offensive way over the years. In that I find him unique among others insofar as others go after one ideology or group regularly, for example Rush Limbaugh, Anne Coulter, et al. Certainly they don’t spread their venom in an equal way.

And while his remark was insensitive, crude and insulting – it was part and parcel of his format – a remark intended as crude humor, and while wrong it was no different than many others made over the years by him and others. At the same time, does anyone look at and take notice of all the good done by Imus such as: raising money for the new state-of-the-art hospital in Texas for the wounded returning from Iraq and Afghanistan; the Imus Ranch for Kids with Cancer, a totally non-profit ranch that gives children with an awful disease a chance to be kids and see that cancer isn’t the end, that they can still be kids, and do physical things like ride horses, compete in rodeos, etc.; campaigning and bringing to light real health issues that normally go under the radar if not actually ignored; and much more.

Others have made similar and worse remarks, and while I think Imus did not mean anything other than making a rather unthinking crude shock remark, others have really meant what they said, and have received a whole lot less attack. What about Rush and his comments (and crude acting) about Michael J. Fox and Parkinson’s, or Ann Coulter calling John Edwards a faggot, or Coulter referring to Helen Thomas as an “old Arab” who should not be allowed within yards of the President, or how about Bill O’Reilly (there are SO many here) when referring to a minority singing group being late saying he hoped they weren’t out in the parking lot stealing hubcaps, and many slurs referring to groups using racist terms, like wetbacks for Mexicans, etc.

Imus has issued several on-air apologies, and being a listener of many years I am prepared to accept his sincerity particularly in light of what I have seen of his actions in so many arenas that are responsible and positive. In addition he is going to Rutgers to apologize in person to the women on the team he insulted. Certainly others have apologized for incautious remarks but the sincerity was lacking in many if not most of those apologies. No, sorry doesn’t make it all better or right, but remorse is not a bad thing if it is real.

And yeah, I need to get politics in here too. While Imus and many others have made remarks that were wrong and insulting, listeners have a choice, they can turn his show off… Troops in Iraq can’t turn off Bush or their orders to march into harm’s way without adequate training or equipment, sooner than expected without the rest needed. Maybe the analogy here is “sticks and stones will break my bones, etc.” – I do not think there is a person out there who has not made a remark that was incautious or insensitive or insulting to someone. My grandmother used to say “when the words are in your mouth they are yours alone, once they are spoken they belong to everyone whether or not you wanted them heard.” Maybe we all need to take a chill pill and look at what really matters in the world. Would Al Sharpton been as vocal about this if the remark were anti-Semitic, anti-gay, et al?

All those who are so vocally attacking this, perhaps they need to go back to the words of someone they all claim to revere and respect, even hope to emulate and remember His words to not cast stones unless they themselves are without sin.

There is so much out there that really needs attention, outrage, and action. I cannot believe this rises to the level of those.